On Oct. 14, Rodney and I celebrated 11 months of marriage. This month has gone very fast with harvest and I have been going to weddings and attending family events.
I have been keeping busy because I am not great at spending time by myself for long amounts of time. The adjustment has been pretty smooth thanks to having an amazing husband who spends as much time with me as he can when he can.
The busyness came to a HAULT on Oct. 24 at 5 p.m. when my husband’s phone rang. His brother was calling to let us know his dad had been in an accident and we needed to get to the hospital.
Rodney happened to be home to load cattle. I don’t think it was a coincidence that he was home. I think it was God’s plan for him to be here so we were closer to the hospital. We made it to the hospital in record time.
The small room at the hospital was filled with Rodney’s mom, brothers, sister, sister-in-law and significant other. We were all crying or fighting tears because we didn’t know for sure what happened or what was going to happen.
It turns out my father-in-law had been out checking his beans on the four-wheeler. Someone found him after he had the accident and called 911.
Though the team at the hospital tried to save him, unfortunately Merlin Borkowski died from complications caused by the accident. The prayers and the tears flooded our lives.
I think we are all still in a little bit of shock that he is no longer with us. The family has made the arrangements for the visitation and the funeral. Friends and family have sent their sympathies, meals, goodies and other items some might not think of – toilet paper, Kleenex, paper plates, napkins, plastic silverware, etc. We are so grateful for all of the support that has come our way in one way or another.
I have only been part of the Borkowski family for a short time. Merlin generally had a smile on his face and was quick to tease me or anyone around him. When asked how he was doing, with a smirk on his face he would say, “Every day’s a holiday.”
He loved to be outside on this farm, checking his crops, driving his four-wheeler, spending time on his swing and gardening. From my perspective, he also loved having all of his kids home and hearing about what is going on in their lives. He made me feel so welcome in their family and even offered up the swing on the deck because he knew I liked to sit on it.
I will carry with me some very fond memories of Merlin that make me smile when they come to mind.
I personally want to thank all of the people who have expressed their sympathies to me, said prayers and given me a hug. This will be a whole new time in my marriage and your support is appreciated.
Please offer up a prayer for my husband Rodney and our family as we go through this time of mourning. Have a blessed day!